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The idea that people cannot find (do not deserve) love, particularly true or perfect love, if they are ‘broken’ or ‘damaged’ is in fact quite common in this society. Many people happily parrot this idea along with self-helpy jargon like needing to love yourself before you seek love. Which is a reminder to broken people, to people who may hate themselves for whatever reason, that they don’t deserve love (we don’t deserve so many things…to live, to speak, to have opinions…).
It is also particularly common to claim that people with mental illness, some diagnoses in particular, are inherently bad and dangerous and harmful and shouldn’t be in relationships/don’t deserve love because they will just hurt people. People have told me to my face at feminist conferences that people with my diagnoses are damaging and dangerous and shouldn’t be allowed to have relationships. Human connections.
The idea of denying love to any human being repulses me. The idea of proudly crowing that you feel some human beings don’t deserve love, or friendship, can never find these things, because they are ‘sick’…it’s not particularly new or revolutionary.
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Hi, I'm Mona (formerly @awyeahlife)! I mostly post about my fictional passions, particularly those involving girls in love, and I watch a lot of TV/anime. I also do a lot of reblogging and tl;dring! Especially when it comes to social justice stuff; if you don't want to have your squee harshed by discussions of how fiction helps uphold marginalization and oppression, this probably isn't the tumblr for you.
I (half-assedly) maintain a few themed tumblrs which can be found in my links section!
Update, Feb 24 2011: I'm trying to increase this blog's accessibility while still finding ways to manage my own obsessive-compulsive issues with completionism, perfectionism, decision-making, detail fixation, etc. For now, what this means is I'm going to start transcribing the text or dialogue of any comics panels, twitter screencaps, or other images with text in them, and do a quick, rough description of any other important visual details in those images unless I start spiraling into compulsivity. But any textless images I'm going to leave without descriptions, at least for now. If you're wondering what the purpose of image descriptions is, I gave a brief explanation here; if you have any other questions, feel free to ask!
